I have been sexually attracted to men for a while, but seem only to connect emotionally with women. I’ve never had any sexual encounters with members of either sex, though I have made advances towards women. I have been parading as completely straight, but I know that’s not the truth (a confession it’s taken me over a decade to admit to myself). Last week, I was prepared to come out to one of my friends as entirely gay, but I don’t believe that’s true either. I realize that would mean that I’m bisexual, that my preference is ambiguous, and that’s disheartening. How can I come out to myself and others if I have no clue which gender I’m attracted to? I would really appreciate some help.