Confused

May 27, 2009 by  
Filed under Coming Out Story, Featured

967718_74977628I have been sexually attracted to men for a while, but seem only to connect emotionally with women. I’ve never had any sexual encounters with members of either sex, though I have made advances towards women. I have been parading as completely straight, but I know that’s not the truth (a confession it’s taken me over a decade to admit to myself). Last week, I was prepared to come out to one of my friends as entirely gay, but I don’t believe that’s true either. I realize that would mean that I’m bisexual, that my preference is ambiguous, and that’s disheartening. How can I come out to myself and others if I have no clue which gender I’m attracted to? I would really appreciate some help.

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3 Responses to “Confused”
  1. Doug says:

    You are who you are…and it really ok. Labels mean nothing. Love yourself as you are. So your attracted to both men and women, spend some time with both. You might get the clarity you seek. If you don’t…revel in the fact you get the best of both worlds. Enjoy…you deserve to be happy!!

  2. Sandy says:

    I guess u have to wait, do NOT run friend, a real love is NOT easy to find, you’re confused, trust in yourselve.

    xo S
    GB

  3. taylor says:

    Eh, I had the same problem.
    I had to admit to myself that I was bi, although im on one side a little more than the other. I’d liked guys… thought i was going to end up with a guy because it was the way i was brought up really….
    Now, I’ve found myself in love with a girl….

    sooo really as long as you are happy, who really cares what anyone else says…
    feel free to experiment or whatever it takes :) even to atleast give yourself closure in a way.
    just do what makes you happy

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